Passion is a problem

It seems like I've been so conditioned that when I do make a different and maybe riskier choice I get paralyzied. This drains my passion and puts me in a funk. I look at all my so called responsibilities and I just cower down like a whipped dog, what the hell is that all about? I don't know how much longer I can keep up this way. It seems like it's been going on forever and there will be no end. I do realize that it is my choices that determine what happens in my life yet I keep being hung up on the same issues as always. My dear wife and I are distant due to a lot of different reasons, not the least of which is working too much at jobs we don't enjoy. The list goes on from there, so here I go.

1. Not sharing a common goal, long or short term.
2. Our sleep habits don't work well together.
3. Our work schedules don't match.
4. We don't really understand eachother.
5. I want a more rural life, she wants more urban.

Well anyway it sounds a bit pathetic and a little sad. We do truly love one another and have been together 30 years. We have raised 3 great children and that was our shared passion and now that is pretty much complete we are struggling to reconnect and redirect and find a common goal and passion. If anyone ever reads this give me a comment and maybe an insight, thanks.